This is a collaborative post
A few weeks ago I wrote how it is, very soon, our ten year wedding anniversary. The date is fast approaching and I’m now thinking ahead to a wedding anniversary gift.
We don’t usually go in for buying wedding anniversay gifts, instead preferring to go out for a meal together to mark the occasion. This time around we are going to book a night or two away somewhere together, most likely in the New Year time.
This year, however, it feels little more significant as we hit the first decade of marriage. We have suggested that we might exchange a small gift, and with that in mind, I thought I’d take a look at what the traditional ten-year gift is. It turns out it’s tin. I’m not too sure what I can buy that’s tin themed, as I thought it might be something a little more exciting!
The history of wedding anniversary gifts is thought to date back to the days of the Roman Empire when, upon the 25th anniversary, husbands would crown their wives with a silver wreath, and a gold wreath on the 50th anniversary. Inevitably as commercialisation took over, each year now has its own gift.
I like the idea of getting something made from tin to mark our anniversary, or perhaps a ‘tin’ of favourite biscuits or sweets to share. It’s actually surprisingly difficult to find anything online that might be suitable – I thought it would be a case of a quick google and I’d have plenty of ideas to hand!
Of course, the later ones are much easier and Gold (50 years) and Silver (25) can easily be solved with things like a gold piece of jewellery or something such as silver bars from Golden Eagle Coin. Even silk and lace (12 and 13 years) are fairly easy to cater for!
I think it’s interesting to see the changing opinion too, 14 years is, traditionally, marked with an ivory gift. But, of course, ivory is ethically dubious so many substitute ivory with an elephant themed gift, which seems much more appropriate to me. Perhaps I could convince Damian that in four years time we should take a safari and see the ivory where it is intended to be – on the tusks of an elephant!
I think marking and celebrating anniversaries is a really important thing. Both of our parents have been married 40 years (well mine will have in a few months time) and my grandparents were married over 60 years, which is a phenomenal achievement I think.
Marriage is hard work, and it’s hard to keep things going sometimes. It’s easy to get bogged down with the everyday details in life, the sorting out of children and the exploration of your own individual’s interests and activities. Over the last 18 months, Damian and I have made real efforts to dedicate at least one night every week or so to each other. A night when we sit together to chat and eat a meal, to watch a film or play a game. We have been together for almost 15 years and married for almost ten, so making that time for each other is terribly important.
So, this year, as we reach the ten-year milestone we will mark our day, and raise a glass to the next ten years.